am i late again? if not i feel late. i didn't notice my last post day, but it has to be at least a couple days ago? could be yesterday -- but i don't think so-- cuz yesterday was one of my busiest days in what has to be months. and i'm talkin near non-stop runnin from 830 a.m til after 4 p.m . that's like one of those VA fightin days. remember those? drivin to dallas, usually gettin lost every time, panic attacks, cryin, awful days.
well, yesterday wasn't 'that' bad'. not to that extent at least. it was just physically and mentally draining. and toward the middle? yep-- painful.
i was a smooshed sloth --- :((
in a way -- i was happy that soulkid was with me -- because i had to fill out forms at each stop -- an i could NOT see , to do it ! soulkid had to be my eyes the entire day. really. she had to fill out almost every form..and there were many. all i could do was sign and date them. i hope she didn't mess anything up -- cuz i couldn't even proof read them. i trust her though. anything she wasn't sure about, she asked, before she wrote it down.
oh - sorry-- i didn't even say WTH we were doin yet. how brilliant of me - right?
i'm sure you're wondering why her ass wasn't in school too huh?
well, i'll tell ya. i have to back up a day though.
picture it ... Sicily, 1932 --- oh sorry -- that's the golden girls --
ok off we go ....
Thursday afternoon....
soulkid calls me from the bathroom at school.
yeh i know.
she is hysterical with joy!
soulkid calls me from the bathroom at school.
yeh i know.
she is hysterical with joy!
MOM, you have to come pick me up- right now! i have to tell you something!
-ummm, NO, i'm not- what's goin on?
you won't believe what just happened.
yeh, maybe not-- WHAT?
i got called down to the counselors office, and they told me that as a transfer student , and because i'm failing too many classes, i have to go back to my other school ! isn't that awesome ?!!!!
(mind you-- she is screeching like a five year old with her panties on fire ! )
(she's also been begging us for weeks to transfer her back to this other school she went to last year-- and even talking about getting a GED- or some other way of some sort of alternative classes to get a diploma -- whatever -- but i have been extremely depressed -- to tears -- about the thought of her not 'graduating' --- because i KNOW she is capable -- and i had always 'seen and expected her to finish school and go on to college) -- i know-- my dream, not hers.
so anyhow-- back to the conversation-----
umm, no 'soulkid' i don't think that's awesome. at all. you just got 'kicked out of school. don't you think that's a little serious?
she didn't care in the least-- this is exactly what she wanted -- since the beginning of the school year-- her boyfriend- and her best friend go to that school. she's dying to go to that school.
so-- i'm feeling deflated-- she's floating on cloud nine-- it's settled that i will not pull her out of school one second early that day-- she goes to class-- and i call the principal to find out WTF is goin on-- and WHY would they talk to a 16 year old BEFORE ME. ugh.
pissed off much?
come to find out -- she wasn't totally thrown out of school-- what she failed to mention to me, was the fact that she was given the opportunity to bring up the grades in the '4' :(( classes that she's failing -- and guys i tell ya -- three of those she should by no means have lower than a C in -- math is her only weak class, it has been for years.
the others she should be doin much better in. it's pure laziness . or perhaps a control issue. i don't know.
anyhow-- once i heard that-- i told him-- she didn't tell me that-- but i know her, and i know that her knowing that it depends on HER bringing up her grades? she won't. she will sit there, and waste everybody's' time, until she gets the final walking papers. and gets her way. (as usual).
he said "you know her better than we do, so is that what you want to do?"
i said-- it's what i have to do. for all of us. i know that's what she will do with her defiant self.
so we went yesterday--- and hell day began. and lasted alll damn day long. i thought i might die. for real.
it didn't start out so bad.
--- OOPS -- first -- we disenrolled her at her school -- (i forgot that part at first )
THEN, we went directly to the school she was to enroll in. we were simply gonna enroll her yesterday, then have her start the day after spring break. that sounds simple enough. right?
ummm, well. NOT.
nothing in my life is ever simple. y'all surely know that much by now right?
ok well, here's how things went down.
she was all but done registering in said school. of course she was thrilled. me not so much. in the back of my mind, i'm still thinkin, my kid just got kicked out of school due to grades. this shouldn't have happened-- and it better never ever happen again. or heads will roll. yes i do think things i dare never say out loud. that's prolly a real good thing. at least i can cage my thoughts-- my mother set them free and really -- i don't think she ever regretted a single awful thing she said. bleh.
anyhow- at literally the last minute-- just as we were going over her new schedule with the counselor --- some other lady came in and said-- we were not supposed to be at 'that' school, but another -- the one that is like a mile from our house.
well, we already knew that. but she attended this school last year-- and the school she was at, had put this school on all her paperwork.. so really it was a lot of wishful thinking and crossed fingers, that she would slip through the cracks and still be able to go to this school, just because she did last year.
-- reason being--- there are a lot of 'bad' people at the school in her district -- and she is basically, 'forbidden by us as parents to attend that school, or hang out with 'those' kids-- for her own safety... and sobriety.
so. that's why yesterday was such a big fiasco. we had to go to her school, the school we 'registered her in', then since she was at the 'wrong school', we had to go to the admin bldg, and talk to the big guy, -- which didn't work out- so we talked with his secretary-- and had to fill out a transfer form online -- then talk to her again... then it-- the request-- now has to go up the 'chain of command' for approval.
but--- since she technically isn't even enrolled in any school at all, at that point-- we had to go enroll her at the school we don't want her to go to--- TWO entire hours there. UGH.
we finally finished and walked out of there at like 4 p.m - after entering our first building of the day at like 8:30. one more errand woulda flat out killed me.
anyhow , before we left , i told them -- actually, more than once, at more than one place, -- i will not send her here / there for even one day-- i don't want to go to jail, but i'm just not gonna do it. -- can this be expedited ?
every person that we talked to-- even at the admin place-- is on our side -- due to the circumstances-- and all of this will be expedited. hopefully it won't take more than the first week after spring break. and i hope she can make up any 'lost time'. because they are gonna approve the transfer to the school she- and we- want her to go to. not that there aren't drugs, and BS at every school, or even every street corner-- it's just that at the one school-- it may as well be in her lap. ya know. and i won't let that happen.
they wouldn't like me when i'm angry :
-ummm, NO, i'm not- what's goin on?
you won't believe what just happened.
yeh, maybe not-- WHAT?
i got called down to the counselors office, and they told me that as a transfer student , and because i'm failing too many classes, i have to go back to my other school ! isn't that awesome ?!!!!
(mind you-- she is screeching like a five year old with her panties on fire ! )
(she's also been begging us for weeks to transfer her back to this other school she went to last year-- and even talking about getting a GED- or some other way of some sort of alternative classes to get a diploma -- whatever -- but i have been extremely depressed -- to tears -- about the thought of her not 'graduating' --- because i KNOW she is capable -- and i had always 'seen and expected her to finish school and go on to college) -- i know-- my dream, not hers.
so anyhow-- back to the conversation-----
umm, no 'soulkid' i don't think that's awesome. at all. you just got 'kicked out of school. don't you think that's a little serious?
she didn't care in the least-- this is exactly what she wanted -- since the beginning of the school year-- her boyfriend- and her best friend go to that school. she's dying to go to that school.
so-- i'm feeling deflated-- she's floating on cloud nine-- it's settled that i will not pull her out of school one second early that day-- she goes to class-- and i call the principal to find out WTF is goin on-- and WHY would they talk to a 16 year old BEFORE ME. ugh.
pissed off much?
come to find out -- she wasn't totally thrown out of school-- what she failed to mention to me, was the fact that she was given the opportunity to bring up the grades in the '4' :(( classes that she's failing -- and guys i tell ya -- three of those she should by no means have lower than a C in -- math is her only weak class, it has been for years.
the others she should be doin much better in. it's pure laziness . or perhaps a control issue. i don't know.
anyhow-- once i heard that-- i told him-- she didn't tell me that-- but i know her, and i know that her knowing that it depends on HER bringing up her grades? she won't. she will sit there, and waste everybody's' time, until she gets the final walking papers. and gets her way. (as usual).
he said "you know her better than we do, so is that what you want to do?"
i said-- it's what i have to do. for all of us. i know that's what she will do with her defiant self.
so we went yesterday--- and hell day began. and lasted alll damn day long. i thought i might die. for real.
it didn't start out so bad.
--- OOPS -- first -- we disenrolled her at her school -- (i forgot that part at first )
THEN, we went directly to the school she was to enroll in. we were simply gonna enroll her yesterday, then have her start the day after spring break. that sounds simple enough. right?
ummm, well. NOT.
nothing in my life is ever simple. y'all surely know that much by now right?
ok well, here's how things went down.
she was all but done registering in said school. of course she was thrilled. me not so much. in the back of my mind, i'm still thinkin, my kid just got kicked out of school due to grades. this shouldn't have happened-- and it better never ever happen again. or heads will roll. yes i do think things i dare never say out loud. that's prolly a real good thing. at least i can cage my thoughts-- my mother set them free and really -- i don't think she ever regretted a single awful thing she said. bleh.
anyhow- at literally the last minute-- just as we were going over her new schedule with the counselor --- some other lady came in and said-- we were not supposed to be at 'that' school, but another -- the one that is like a mile from our house.
well, we already knew that. but she attended this school last year-- and the school she was at, had put this school on all her paperwork.. so really it was a lot of wishful thinking and crossed fingers, that she would slip through the cracks and still be able to go to this school, just because she did last year.
-- reason being--- there are a lot of 'bad' people at the school in her district -- and she is basically, 'forbidden by us as parents to attend that school, or hang out with 'those' kids-- for her own safety... and sobriety.
so. that's why yesterday was such a big fiasco. we had to go to her school, the school we 'registered her in', then since she was at the 'wrong school', we had to go to the admin bldg, and talk to the big guy, -- which didn't work out- so we talked with his secretary-- and had to fill out a transfer form online -- then talk to her again... then it-- the request-- now has to go up the 'chain of command' for approval.
but--- since she technically isn't even enrolled in any school at all, at that point-- we had to go enroll her at the school we don't want her to go to--- TWO entire hours there. UGH.
we finally finished and walked out of there at like 4 p.m - after entering our first building of the day at like 8:30. one more errand woulda flat out killed me.
anyhow , before we left , i told them -- actually, more than once, at more than one place, -- i will not send her here / there for even one day-- i don't want to go to jail, but i'm just not gonna do it. -- can this be expedited ?
every person that we talked to-- even at the admin place-- is on our side -- due to the circumstances-- and all of this will be expedited. hopefully it won't take more than the first week after spring break. and i hope she can make up any 'lost time'. because they are gonna approve the transfer to the school she- and we- want her to go to. not that there aren't drugs, and BS at every school, or even every street corner-- it's just that at the one school-- it may as well be in her lap. ya know. and i won't let that happen.
they wouldn't like me when i'm angry :
click it to make it bigger -- it's so great :))
ok peeps -- looks like the child and i have postponed our trip -- leavin tuesday -- know why? cuz i don't really care -- and her boyfriend is off work on monday -- she just has to 'see' him before we leave. sooo-- i get to chill, and skip the weekend traffic, crowds and prices. :)) and let her think it's all for her
bwa hahahahaha
happy weekend folks-
bwa hahahahaha
happy weekend folks-
23 comments:
....omword...I like the ged thing after all that!!! GoodLord!!!!
You're a Loving Mom is all I've got to say...Just think, 5 yrs from now? It won't matter...??
LOL...Well?
STOP STRESSING!!!
It REALLY will all work out!! That's a promise!
Your daughter is PollyAnna compared to what our Son put us through!! Trust me!!
Hug her and just "go with it"!!!
hughugs
donna-- i was almost at the point of stop all the bs, and get your GED. eegads. man i tell ya. what a day. - and one i hope to never repeat.
but-- once i saw hope in the fact that the transfer #2, had such a good chance of being approved? i wasn't gonna stop til it happened. and it will happen. just may take some time-- and absent days. hopefully not too many. they are expediting it -- cuz i told them i am not puttin her in that school, for one second. they know it-- and they know they don't wanna spend the time and money to put me in jail-- and i sure don't want to go to jail.
i was amazed how nice everyone was. i do mean everyone we had to talk to-- very nice - understanding, and on our side.
it took a lot for me to not be bitchy as i grew tired throughout the day -- but like they say -- more bees with honey -- etc.
and how true that is.
and i am, girl. just chillin.
tryin to not turn into the soul-hulk. :))
and yep again. she will always be my baby -- no matter how 'mean, and bratty she gets'
she hates to be called a brat. may as well be the other B word. for real. she gets that angry.
ok-- now that i have blogged a second time in here-- i shall get back to my maps.
happy saturday
HUGZ
and thanks buddy
oh-- for the hug her and go with it--
i like that :)))
mine got thrown out of more than one school and now she is in college. oh yeah and she did end up with a GED. But she is now in college LOL so its not always the worst that can happen. The thing is that now she WANTS it. I think that sometime they have to see a little of life one their own before they appreciate such things as an education
good goin for your girl raine--
and i know you're right -- droppin out isn't 'the end' until they just flat out give up. i know this. i just see-- and want so much more for her. mine - i mean.
anyhow-- i'm not a puppet master-- and she is very headstrong.
and on the positive side? at least for me-- she said that now that she gets to change schools-- she doesn't want to get a ged anymore !!!
some peoples kids. eegads :))
I never had that option. My town growing up only had one high school. But seeing as I was such an unpopular kid, it didn't matter, I just stayed to myself anyways lol.
All I can say is that I'm glad I don't have kids, LOL! Either they, or me, or both, would be dead. hahahaha!!!!!!!
My parents figured out which schools I would attend and that was that. No ifs, ands, or buts. It was my JOB to go to school and get the best grades that I could. Had a boyfriend at another school too. That was life and there was no whining about it. I was happy to get a good education because I knew that it spelled financial freedom for the rest of my life. Small price to pay actually. I got to choose which college to attend because I fully supported myself by that time.
Soooo... I sure hope she wakes up sometime (before it's too late) and figures out that life isn't always going to work the way that she wants it. Just keeping it real!
After all that, I guess I better give you a hug. {{{hug}}}
All that bureaucratic nonsense sounds like my worst kind of nightmare. I'm happy to hear that at least the admin folk were trying to be helpful and that with time, it will all work out.
Loved the pic of Soul Hulk.
lynx and donna 2 ---
like y'all i just sat down and kept my damn mouth shut. i did what i was told and there was nothin else to it. period.
my child is bold. and brazen. 'nothin else to it'. period.
she could prolly put out a blazin fire just by lookin at it. phew. not much puts the fear into the kid i tell ya. cept maybe her dad. nah. certainly her dad. i think he may be the only thing/person she won't push around. much.
ugh. she didn't get it from me. i swear. :))
like dona - tx--
i just hug her and go with it--
bwa hahahaha
hugz y'all--
gypsy -- hey , where in the heck have you been? happy to see ya - hope you are doin good.
anyhow-- yes not only your worst nightmare-- but it sure can't have been my favorite either. ugh. and i know it will only repeat itself in a couple weeks -- eek -- when we go to get her into school after spring break.
until then -- i will try not to become 'soul-hulk'
isn't that pic the greatest? i laughed out loud when i found that ! and it was accidental too -- so that made it even funnier -
hugs to you
I'm exhausted after reading that. I can't even imagine how you must have felt.
I hope it works out for you and your girl. Quickly.
Oh Lordy, you've got more get up and go than I do lady. Before I'd go through that I'd do the GED for sure, but don't they have to be 17 to be able to do that? Is she that old yet? You're a much better Momma/Nanaw than I am for sure!
I'm so sorry that soul-kid is putting you through this. My grandson put us through hell his last couple years in school. Same thing happened to him except the school pressed charges against him for truancy. Not cool. 168 IQ and he ended up getting a GED. Shameful as far as I'm concerned....but at least he got that. Its like the old saying....you can lead a horse to water. Good luck soul-friend....she's got some lessons to learn. Hugs.
haha! pulled one over on them, did ya? You sly devil! *-4 is a loooong time for you. You will earn your vacation!How long to get to Austin? And how the heck do I get to your older posts? Imma have to go look again. I wanna see the video's. Ok, well, have a great day!! Love ya!
uh that was supposed to be 8-4. and the Sloth Hulk was STUNNING! I got my GED and look how well I turned out! Im getting my degree. 20 years later, but that GED made it all possible.
saw the Bday video. that was very well done! *clapping* what did she think? its great because it will be aforever gift. remember all those old pics that would fade?
teenagers suck ..that all i am saying!
"bold and brazen" Are you sure we don't have the same daughter?????
Well I'm damn proud of you that you made it through the day from hell. Aren't kids just wonderful? They also don't understand the panic crap either, unless unfortunately they've been there and I hope they haven't. It's hell and makes no sense to others.
You should be on your trip by now, or not. It's Monday and I think you're leaving Tuesday and you wrote on FB that you're going and it's Monday so WTH? See? My brain is so much like yours lol
Wow... that's total craziness. Nothing's ever easy, is it?
I'm glad the administration people were trying to help.
I hope that after all of this business, SoulKid steps up to the plate and works hard:) She's smart and beautiful and has tons of potential!!!
Wow... that's total craziness. Nothing's ever easy, is it?
I'm glad the administration people were trying to help.
I hope that after all of this business, SoulKid steps up to the plate and works hard:) She's smart and beautiful and has tons of potential!!!
Oh my. I so hope this all works out. Children can try our last nerve, can't they?
sorry i'm sooooo far behind on these-- i am about to hit the road with my kid -- hope to catch up tonite if i find a place with wi-fi-
be happy and y'all can face bbook or email to talk to me-- but i may not be able to reply goin facebook-- i seniled my password :(( but it is remembered on my laptop=-- so if i get that figured ot-- if i have it-- i can replay--
ugh-- soooo not prepared yet -- and i should already be on the road :((
i can't believe this-
be happy in your worlds folks-
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